One of the hardest things to do in life is let go of someone. Whether it be a relationship that has run it's course, a loved one who is dying or saying goodbye to someone who is going away for an extended period of time. As I write this, my son is still sleeping on the day I am bringing him to the airport to return to school. His puppy (who many of you got to meet over the summer), is sitting next to me on the stoop outside my kitchen door (one of my favorite places to write, and take in the day).
I swore I wouldn't get attached. Well, that didn't work! So I am summonsing up my yoga tools once again. This practice has helped me through so much. I know it can help me yet again. I also know I am not alone. So many people have to deal with letting go on a regular basis. Our physical practice helps us to experience an outer attainment, and also an inner peace. The yoga philosophy is so rich in guidance that I cannot help but get drawn in to the support I can receive when I am open to it.
One of the Yamas, which are personal guidelines is Aparigraha. Many people take it to mean non-hoarding or non-greed. It also means non-attachment. Ultimately this Yama is about only taking what we need. The problem is we don't always know what we need, and what we think and what we can handle are two different things. It also helps us to understand that we can hold on when it serves us, and let go when it doesn't. Again, easier said than done.
Parinamavda is a Sanskrit word that means everything is in a constant state of flux. I know this in my heart that things change, yet change is hard, especially when someone you love is leaving you.
So if you are currently sending a child off to college, or working with another aspect of letting go. Be in the moment as much as you can. Try not to cling, and allow life to unfold the way it is meant to. Aparigraha can teach us a sense of freedom. Try not to grasp so hard, and the flow of life will happen as it should.
"But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls."~Kahlil Gibran